When our little love bug reached 2 months old, I still had no idea how to “Mommy”, but some things were finally starting to fall into place. He wasn’t quite so fragile anymore (still fragile, just not SO fragile), he was starting to form somewhat of an actual schedule, and I was healed enough to be up doing every day tasks — even going on walks/light exercise.
For those of you who are going through the wondrous adventure of having a newborn, here is what my schedule (though not consistent in the least) would typically look like at 2 months:
5:00 – 7:00 am: Wake up.
This totally depends on when my little one decides he’s done sleeping and it varied between 5 and 7 am (I definitely preferred the 7 am!). I’d heard the sleep schedule gets better as they age, but at 2 months, I was an extremely tired momma!
I’ve decided that one doesn’t truly realize what being tired really is until you’ve got a newborn screaming for food all hours of the night.
7:00 – 7:30 am: Feed the baby.
Before I’d get settled in to feed (and hopefully quick enough for baby not to explode), I would grab a big bottle of water (which you can never have enough of!) and sometimes a bowl of cereal. Since I breastfed at the time, we fed for 15 minutes on each side. During this time I would also eat my breakfast – over my baby – praying that I wouldn’t drip on him in the process. I chose to do this as I had a very small window between happy baby and angry baby, and angry baby is extremely loud and hard to calm down! I also didn’t want to be just barely eating hours after waking up… this girl needs her food.
If he was still hungry after 30 minutes, I’d put him back on. Believe me, you will know if they are hungry.
7:30 am – 8:30 am: Awake time!
This is when we play – which for a newborn is really just making silly faces and singing songs while your baby stares at you wide-eyed, charming and clueless.
The older he got, the longer he was staying awake. At 2.5 months old, we would play for about an hour/hour and a half by reading books, singing songs, wiggling together, going for walks, and doing the very important tummy time!
8:30 – 10:30 am: Nap time.
As soon as he starts showing signs that he’s tired (yawning, droopy eyes, etc.), I’ll scoop him up, give him big kisses, and put him in his crib for a nap. I still do this months later. It’s all about finding that sweet spot between being awake and asleep.If I’ve waited too long, he’ll get fussy and take a bad nap, and if I try to put him to sleep before he is tired, he also gets fussy.
They always say to put your child to bed drowsy, but not asleep. It’s supposed to help with their sleep schedule… but more on that another time.
Once the baby was asleep, I would choose from the following: shower (only on a good nap day… Sometimes it’ll be a power nap day and then I can’t accomplish anything!), clean (whether it be dishes, laundry, vacuuming, or some other housework that has been neglected), EAT (if I haven’t already done so), work.
I’ve realized that it’s hard to find the time or motivation to get ready for the day when free time is so hard to come by. Also, who wants to wear jeans and an uncomfortable (albeit cute) blouse all day when half of your time is spend on the couch feeding the baby anyway?
90% of my tops are not nursing friendly so if I’m wearing something nice, it’s usually only because I’m out in public.
I often see these other moms with full faces of makeup posting about all the amazing things they accomplished that day and think, “HOW??” Serious guys, I’m lucky if I get deodorant on before 10 am!
10:30 – 11:00 am: Wake and feed
11:00 – 12:30 pm: Activity Time
12:30 – 2:30 pm: Nap Time
And so the schedule repeats itself until bedtime.
Before bed we would bathe (every other day), lotion, and swaddle (this is my favorite swaddle blanket. If I could afford to have 10, I would!). Every night we would do the same things. Repetition helps your child understand and make associations. Bath and swaddle? Bed time.
When his naps were not a full 2 hours, I would still follow this schedule of wake, feed, play, sleep, because I felt it was important to have a good flow and schedule to the day – for both of our sakes!
I also want to point out that while having a schedule is nice, I’ve realized just how important it is to be flexible with it. For a long time I was the mom who didn’t want to leave the house, have friends over, or do ANYTHING out of the norm because I didn’t want to mess with the baby’s schedule. After a while it took a toll on me and (after a few breakdowns) am much more relaxed and able to participate and enjoy being a mother.
Other mothers may tell you different, but for me, the first few months were the hardest. They were also the biggest test to my sanity. I was home alone with a child who was completely dependent on me, had no family or friends nearby, and was doing this for the first time.
Luckily, I have an amazing and supportive husband who helps take some of that burden off of my shoulders. When he would come home from work and I’d be in sweatpants, only half done making dinner, instead of being frustrated or going and doing his own thing, I’d get a big kiss, he would grab the baby (either from me or from the bouncer where he would be screaming to be held), and he would dad like the best dad in the world.
My suggestion to you is to find a support person/group if you have not already done so. Whether that be a friend next door, a mommy group on Facebook, a family member close by, your spouse, or someone else, it’s so important to have those people you can turn to. Support for when you’re overwhelmed, or to share in your excitement that your child smiled for the first time, or simply to ask opinions on which brand of diapers you should buy.
Whatever happens, know this: You’re already 2 months in and doing a great job!
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