I can be an over-protective Mommy.
Aren’t we all in one way or another? I constantly question every aspect of my parenting and often compare myself and my child to others. This article is focused on my constant comparisons and was actually something I had started writing several months ago when I had a pressing issue on my mind… so we will start there.
September 18, 2018:
Torben rolled over for the first time yesterday!
As the competitive and proud mothers that we are, we all want our baby to be the first, the smartest, or the most talented. In the rush to prove that to others, we sometimes forget that these are just babies and that they will learn at their own pace.
I realized that I had been worrying that something was “wrong” with my baby because he was 5.5 months old and hadn’t rolled over yet. I had checked my Facebook groups, spoke to friends, looked up articles on Google and used my milestone tracker on Ovia; all of them stated in some way or another that your baby should be rolling over by the time they were 4 months old…
Well that wasn’t the case in this home! I sometimes wondered if he was purposefully choosing not to roll over because he would get so close, SO many times! Not even kidding, my kid just decided one day that he was going to roll over. It wasn’t even a struggle, but until yesterday, he had never intentionally done it. Not once.
Now that he has rolled over, my worry is gone, but it got me thinking about how those milestones are just approximations. We have created an expectation that our baby has to reach a certain milestone by a certain time, but that’s not necessarily the case!
It’s hard not to compare your child to someone else’s, but what we should be focusing on is not that Sally Sue’s baby started walking at 8 months old. We should be focused on providing the tools for our children that give them the best opportunity to learn and grow…
Now that it’s several months later, I’ve found that this mindset has still come and gone several times (with several different “milestones”). What matters is that I know and understand that Torben will progress at his own rate – sometimes I just need a good reminder.
Instead of worrying about what is to come, we have decided to let him learn. To let him explore, play, and get dirty! Sure, I’ve removed more than a couple leaves from Torben’s mouth, but I love letting him explore the grass, flowers, leaves, pine cones, and whatever else he can find during our daily walks. He’s got a few good bumps and bruises, but he loves climbing, crawling, and making his way through my kitchen utensils.
We would much rather enjoy and participate in the milestones he is currently achieving than stress over the ones he hasn’t. That being said, we are absolutely looking forward to all of the adventures to come!
What adventures have your little ones had?
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